Many people are fixated on the idea of success, or victory, in the sense that there is a particular imagined future condition that is preferred over all others. This leads naturally to attempts to control and manipulate present surroundings to maximize the probability that the future is as desired. However, in doing so, controlling becomes a habit; but careful management of situations is incompatible with the childlike, playful attitude that tends to bring about true joy. What I'm saying is that even if strategy and control are successful at getting you what you want, they prevent you from enjoying it once you have it. How do you stop obsessing over success? I think it's quite difficult to do intentionally. My experience is that one half of the solution is relaxation - the sensation that nothing *needs* to happen immediately, and that there is time for rest and play. The other half is more violent, and hard to cause intentionally; something needs to crush your illusion of control, and break your spirit, and force you unwillingly to your knees. And then you, in your defeat, face total despair; you begin to believe that nothing will *ever* work out. Then - you have the ability to give up, and drop the goals and narratives that tie you to false futures, and just do things you like doing instead. This is one path to freedom.